There must be something in the water…
Two girls I know have gotten engaged in the past month – now, at my age, this would not be that unusual, as I seem to have friends getting engaged/married/pregnant on a daily basis, but what IS unusual is that both of these people have known their new fiance for less than 6 months, and they’ve both set the wedding date before the end of the year, meaning that they’ll have known each other for less than a year when they tie the knot! What the?!?!?! I mean, I know that as we get older, the time necessary for deciding who to marry typically goes down, as people generally know more about what they’re looking for, are more secure in who they are, etc… but these girls are mid-20s, and I wouldn’t have thought we were to that age yet. Does this scare anyone else? I can’t really imagine marrying someone I’ve known for a total of less than a year – it seems like you’d still be in the middle of the infatuation stage of a relationship at that point, not allowing the other person to see the real you for the most part (and vice versa). I don’t know… just seems kinda fast to me…
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In other news, I have a place booked for my stay in Bozeman, MT this summer while I attend a ‘summer school’ science conference at Montana State University – it’s called the ‘Lewis and Clark Motel’ and it looks fabulously tacky – check out the website and see the luxury I’ll be reveling in, come July! 
Re the Lewis and Clark Motel: home-style rooms…waaay cool indeed. But at least they have free wi-fi, right?!?
:fist of solidarity:
it doesn’t scare me. once i get through a few months, i’ll know. i couldn’t imagine dating someone for a long time…after a few months, and i haven’t freaked out, i’m good.
oh, and the game room at the motel looks very pampering.
I love that you two have opposite reactions to this
And I guess I can see how two people could make it through the infatuation stage more quickly than others – especially if they’re friends first…
And maybe I can learn to play pool in that fabulous game room, eh?
Scott, I was unaware that we shared a brain.
one of my friend’s friends met a guy, and 3 months later got engaged. the wedding is in a few weeks. i’ve asked her if she has any other friends who are “girls that get engaged after 3 months”, but she has told me she knows none at the moment.
apparently its not something you can plan.
see, it’s incredibly romantic to think about, ‘falling in love’ and having someone that crazy about you, that they would want to spend the rest of their life with you, after only 3-4 months of knowing you – it’s just the practical ‘oh my gosh, I’m going to be living with and loving this person for the rest of my life’ part that takes my breath away (in good and bad ways, I guess
). I do agree that some people just know, and don’t need all that time to figure it out – lots of happily married people that I know, actually…
I guess Scott and I just have different experiences, because all of my married friends dated for long times. Shoot, the guy whose townhouse I bought was engaged for over a year.
oh, its definitely scary….marriage is FOR.EVER.
’tis indeed!
Hey, Andrea – you do remember that that timetable was about mine and Daniel’s, too, right?;-) The crazy thing is that I thought he was moving incredibly slowly! So, anyway, the idea doesn’t scare me a bit.;-)
I totally forgot about you guys, A! But you’re right, it didn’t seem fast at all for you two – but then, it was a pretty foregone conclusion after a few weeks that y’all would be together forever
(Plus y’all had such similar backgrounds/life philosophies, so that helped move things along, right?)
It definitely did help that we’d grown up in the same church and our parents had known each other years ago – I guess in a way that kind of adds “time” to our relationship – there wasn’t as much to find out about each other.