Life As an Afterschool Special

Comment by jendaas

July 5, 2007 @ 9:07 am

Hey Sister ~
Provacotive post…
be back soon….need to process

Comment by jendaas

July 5, 2007 @ 9:08 am

meant provocative…..

Comment by Dena

July 5, 2007 @ 12:27 pm

How? You live in the world but you make a choice as to whether you’re going to be OF the world, or not. You don’t have to live like the world lives.

You may feel like those are your only three options, but in reality, you must know they aren’t. What does the Word say? Serve others in the church, etc and live a life glorifying to God. not perfectly, of course. Seek wisdom from older godly women. Thats what the gospel (Jesus) is for. You do the same thing you’d be doing as a married woman, it just works out a litte differently because you’re not serving a husband.

I love this site, Jamie…I read it all the time: http://solofemininity.blogs.com/

this is also great: http://girltalk.blogs.com/

Comment by greenbean

July 5, 2007 @ 2:48 pm

Sex and the City has announced they are coming out with a movie. I’m sure this movie will answer all your questions because the show has helped answer all my relationship questions. (I found my Aidan)

Comment by Mirranda

July 6, 2007 @ 10:59 am

The other day I was sitting at church and noticed that there was only 1 single girl who was under a size 12 in the room. It got me thinking about how we handle our sexual tension. As Christians we want to supress our sexual desires so we can stay pure but in return we become depressed, bitter, angry and/or desperate. A lot of us run after food to make ourselves feel better, which in return makes us fat and feel ugly and then we stop carrying about our physical appearence and the cycle continues. I think in real life we take after the ladies from sex and the city. Carrie - she gets her validation from men. She always needs to have a man in her life. Samantha - screw it/ screw them. Tired of getting hurt so she turns off the emotions and has sex but she is never really happy with her life. (watch the trailer and the episode where she cheats on Smith) Charolette - desperate she marries the first guy to come her way. Boy did he turn out to be a winner no sex and gives her a cardboard baby. Then there is Mirranda - bitter, angry, hurt and troubled. I think it is natural for us to fall into one of these four catagories. Sex is part of our life that if we try and ignore it we will become Mirrandas. If we act on it we can become a Carrie, Charolette or Samantha. We could turn to masturbation but that too is a sin (There should not be a hint of sexual immorality among you) and you don’t want to become addicted to it. Just think you finally get married and your man just isn’t good and you tell him “honey, you can stop now my stallion I keep in the drawer is a lot better.” Yeah, you’ll be divorced in 2 years.

JD Christians (if you know me you know what that stands for. Hate me if you like) They believe that you can just pray away your problems. Your horney just pray about that I’m sure God will take it away. Just like God took away the thorn in Paul side. He prayed 3 times thorn is still there JD Christians!!!! Why, because God wants us to fight. Would we fear God if he answered every prayer. We would act like spoiled children. It is our fight that builds character.

I think we need to look at our sexual tension as a battle. Don’t be ashamed of it be honest about it. Give it to God, talk about it with friends. If we run from it satan will use it. We bring it into the light and God will bless it. I remember just the other day I watched an episode of Sex and the City and it got me wanting to go to a sex class. I wanted to know how to please my man because I love him. What did you tell me Jamie “No way are you going to a class like that. Do you know what kind of damage you would do if you had that knowledge.” After you scolled me for my desire my fantasy of going to a sex class ended. I brought it to the light satan no longer has a hold of it. I think the best way to stay healthy as a single woman in a Sex in the City world is to be open about your desires.

Comment by imjlrw

July 6, 2007 @ 3:32 pm

Wow. Such thoughts.

Hey Jen… come back! It would interesting to hear what you came up with!

Dena, good sharing. I like thoes blogs… and I agree these arent our only three options, just what FEELS like our only three options so many times. And even if we are trying to be good godly women singleness is a minefield.

As a christian single can you “date”? And if you do what are the physical boundries? Where are you supposed to find these single people? What are you supposed to look for? WHat is appropiate single relationships look like? Because what Sex in the City tell you you are supposed to look like and what I kissed dating goodbye tell you are polar opposites. ANd I am not sure I want teither of thoes to rule my life…

More blog about that later.

Greenbeen… You kow Carrie and Adian didnt end up together… Was he too stable? Did she need a big? After so much drama and dating could she just not handle the one man who loved her?

And Mirranda. Heh. Good name. Thoes are some pretty intense thoughts. And I think you may be right that we transfer our sexual desires and even relationship needs into other addictions and sins. And that can be dangerous.

I also like your analyzing of the SITC girls. I knwo we have talked many times about how Samantha seems so strong, but if you watch her face when she is most “sexual” she looks conflicted and hurt. I think as woman we can but on this sexual bravado when inside we are hurting and broken and hate ourself for what we are doing.

But that is a good time to bring up something I have said often to you. What you do does not have to be who you are, and you can always walk away from bad choices.

I agree that the best way to have sexual purity is to be open. I appriciated your openness that day about wanting to be sexual with the man you love and not wanting to wait. I appriciated your openness about wanting to take a class or get a book to learn more about that. But most of all I appriciated that you really listened and were willing to hear me when I told you why that is a terrible idea at this point in your relationship and in your walk. You heard me out, you knew I said what I said because I love you and know you and know your past. And that is really the only way any of us can grow and the only way I think any of us are going to maintian spiritual integrity both as a single and when we get married

~James

Comment by Samantha Jones

July 12, 2007 @ 9:42 am

Being single is much better then being married. As single person we get obsessed with not having sex but think of all the problems that come with having someone. You have the Aiden problem - insisting in always being in a good mood, always fixing everything, and always talking the minute you walk in the door (I hate that I need my space). Then there is always the potential of having the “little dick” problem. What if you meet mr. perfect and he just doesn’t have what it takes in bed. Now you are forever with him. Is his personality going to be enough? What if something “bigger” comes along can you stay faithful.
I think being single is a lot less stressful. You can be like the yoga instructure and take all your sexual energy and recycle it in side you. “the only thing better then having sex, is not having sex” Recycle your sexual energy that way you dont have to worry about settling for a “small package”

Comment by jendaas

July 18, 2007 @ 11:15 am

I have to say….in the middle of moving from struggling with singleness to struggling with the ‘dying to self’ that it takes to be married in about 108 days…..I know that both singlenss and marriage are GOOD gifts from the Father.

Ps 84:11
“For the LORD God is a sun and shield; the LORD bestows favor and honor. NO GOOD THING does he withhold from those who walk uprightly.”

I will never let go of the fact that if we believe God’s word is TRUTH….than if we are walking uprightly (in the Spirit via God’s word)
He will not withhold good….and that GOOD may be singleness for some and marriage for others.
Trials are guaranteed in both…they are just very different.
God promises to those who remain chaste, who do not marry, a name above sons and daughters(Is 56:3-5)
and Paul said that it is better to be unmarried FOR THE SAKE of the ability to give your undivided devotion to the Lord and His Kingdom. Eternity is at stake - daily….Heaven and Hell. The warnings in the scriptures they are for US believers….they are written to the churches.
We need to guard our purity with all our might, if we cannot control our lust, we should marry. If you cannot marry - GOD promised to give you a way of escape and that He will give you the power to control ourselves.

Honestly, I’ve seen sex and the city….and there is something intriguing about it all…..but the deceitfulness of sin is present if you are being sensitive to the Holy Spirit - I can sense it.
I mean, they do not show truth on the sitcom - the eternal ramifications and eternal hellfire that Christ rejecting, lustfilled men and women will undergo for giving in consistently to the flesh’s desires is never revealed. They make sin and sex seem fulfilling, when it actually leaves people empty and wretched and used.

So, sort of a personal conviction of mine is to not let much TV into my daily life. Because of where it leaves my heart afterward….Wrong thinking, empty, longing, clouded, lost, lonely…..all in all, it’s too easy for sheep to forget their shepherd and the realities of Christ if we let the world dictate truth to us via the media. We’re supposed to guard our hearts with all our might.

My pastor had said something that stayed with me…..
“Don’t ask the minimum integrity question of “what’s wrong with it?” - but RAISE the bar of righteousness and say “does it HELP ME TO RUN after Christ?”

I write with love, not judgment…..my heart still needs a great deal of work.

In Christ Jesus with you sister,
Jennifer

Comment by jendaas

July 18, 2007 @ 11:27 am

PS - DO share what JD Christians stands for!!!
I think it to be very insensitive to the realities of being a human being to pretend that struggles are to be merely prayed over.
Prayer is a not a means of dismissing sin and “speaking the word” to “bind satan”…..it’s about communing with the Lord, getting your heart lined up with God’s, developing a hatred of sin.
Jude 1:22
“And have mercy on those who doubt; save others by snatching them out of the fire; to others show mercy with fear, hating even the garment stained by the flesh.”

Walking as a believer with a heart to be edifying to our family in Christ is much more helpful…..and if we MERELY hug someone who’s dealing with sin, or you ONLY pray for them…..but never bring them back to God’s word, that’s actually not that loving.

The only offensive weapon in our fight against sin (named in the armor) is the sword - ie…the word of God.
If you try to think about “nice fuzzy ideas of this and thus” or try to think that “tomorrow will be better” umm…….that is like using a blade of grass instead of a sword.

Solid quote I heard once was “Be killing sin, or it will kill you.”

Anyone want to borrow my soap box??
I mean well, sorry so wordy.
laters ~
Jen

Comment by Dena

July 20, 2007 @ 1:07 pm

I really loved what Jen said. (Jendaas)

Great, excellent points. I completely agree.