Chapter XI: In Memory of Being Tall, Strong and Proud
Aug 21st, 2009 | By jdr | Category: lifeMy friends, we meet again. It’s generally at
this point in our ever decreasing conversation
that I would inform you that “all is well on
the Midwestern front”, however to do so would
most undoubtly be a farce. Terrible
thunderstorms and tornados have ripped through
the heartland over the last forty-eight hours,
leaving a trail of downed trees and powerlines
that stretches across America like a comets
tail. I can although, inform you that, in my
hometown, life has been unbelievably changing
right before my Irish eyes.
You see, over the last month, our family has
suffered from some sort of tragedy on multiple
levels. However, to tell the story properly, I
feel I should instead tell you the tale of the
once tall, strong and proud Ash tree that stood
right outside my office window, in my front
yard. Roughly fifty years old and fifty feet
tall, our family loved that Ash tree. It
provided years of protection from the harsh sun
beating down upon our lovely home. It provided
shelter for many furry and feathery creatures.
I’m not sure, but family legend even states
that this tall, strong and proud Ash tree
single handily defeated The Soviet Union, cured
Polio and was responsible for the reunion of Bo
and Luke Duke with Uncle Jesse. Yes, this Ash
Tree had seen it all. It had lived through
years and years of terrible storms and
unearthly tribulations. It had seen children
who grew into mothers, who grew into
grandmothers. It had seen it all. However, due
to our great dispair, our tall, strong and
proud Ash tree grew ill. As the family prepared
itself, we knew there was a time coming when
our family would no longer have it’s
protection, it’s shade, it’s shelter in our
lives. There was a day when it would soon be
gone and all we would be left with would be
memories and pictures.
There is nothing like the thought of death that
makes a man step back and look at his own mere
mortality and where one may stand with it’s
maker. In the blink of an eye it could all be
over and what you’ve done with your life, the
legecy you’ve lefted behind is what will be
remembered of you. It’s thoughts like these
that I wrestled with in anticipation of the
death of our tall, strong and proud Ash tree.
The time unfortunately came when the tree would
need to be removed. It’s body from it’s roots.
It’s roots from the ground. Where a once
beautiful symbol of our family home once stood,
would be left with soft ground and a layer of
grass seed. As the men came that sunny day to
remove the tree from our yard, I left for work,
knowing full well that when I returned to my
beautiful yellow brick home, something wouldn’t
quite be the same. That protection that once
stood wouldn’t be there. That shelter for the
creatures of Columbus, Ohio wouldn’t be there.
I wrestled with this thought as I went
throughout my day. Then it hit me -
Our tall, strong and proud Ash tree would carry
on in a number of ways. A little piece of it
would be carried on in the lives of others. For
some, it would generate warmth in the dead of a
Midwestern winter. For some, it would create a
beautiful wood floor – a strong foundation to
live on. For some it would be a little boy’s
rocking horse, a place to learn and grow. In
fact, it was almost selfish of me to think what
the loss of my tree would mean for me and not
realize how it would soon impact the lives of
others in ways I simply could not comprehend
when the circumstances arose.
When I pulled onto my street that hot July
evening after a grueling day in the office, I
stood in silence and looked at where my tall,
strong and proud Ash tree once stood. Instead
of seeing a hole in the ground, I instead saw a
new, level yard, covered with dirt, grass seed
and straw as if our Ash tree was saying to me:
“Go ahead, son, I’ve created a new foundation
for you to grow now. Don’t worry about me. I’ll
carry on forever in the memories and the lives
of those I’ve touched. Go on, grow here. Live
here. Protect from the storms in life. Provide
shelter to those who need it. Be strong. Be
proud. Make an impact in the lives of others.
Be a rocking horse…”
It was in July that we lost my wife’s
grandfather – the man who’s house I now live
in. A tall, strong and proud veteran of three
branches of the United States Armed Forces and
of two wars. A father of three, a husband of
one and a protector to those whom he served and
a man who provided shelter to those who needed
it. I for one, will forever be greatful for the
way he has impacted my life, even without him
ever knowing it.
All may not be well on the Midwestern front
right now, but it is well with my soul.
Until we meet again, old friend, until we meet
again.