One more thing.
Which is more desirable? A lifetime of comfortable love, or a shorter amount of sheer romantic bliss? If someone asked me that question I would tell them, of course, that a lifetime of not-so-exciting love is infinitely preferable to me.
But would I be telling them the truth?
Who among us, ladies, has watched a romantic movie and not longed for a man to fly halfway around the world just to tell us he has fallen madly in love with us? Who has not dreamed of the most romantic proposal, complete with candlelight and rose petals? Who has not yearned for the single moment in which we realize we are desperately in love?
A life of comfortableness is most likely more fulfilling. Though, to be honest… I wouldn’t say no to a room full of rose petals.
(Please ignore me. I’ve been watching swoony movies again. Damn those Walmart discount DVD racks!)
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I read this earlier and it’s been sitting open on my computer screen all evening while I’ve been in and out of the room cleaning and studying and making dinner and stuff, and I have been thinking about it every since.
For what it’s worth, I understand what you’re saying. Last week my college pastor talked about something similar actually, about how much our culture glorifies spontaneity… and actually I think instead of posting a huge long response to your post here, I will put it on my blog (sayjayspeculations.blogspot.com) and then copy and paste on rmfo. How’s that? That way I don’t take up a ton of room here.
Dude, I think real romance is just about being thoughtful. Flowers fade, rose petals have to be cleaned up, those things are nice for their moment, but it is the day-in day-out stuff of a marriage, where someone is thinking about how they can look out for the other that is real romance for me. That said, sometimes part of that looking out for someone can be doing romantic stuff.
My question for you is that would you rather somone make a “romantic gesture” that is unatural, or show their love through the little stuff they do.
I’m not Kat, but I would argue that I’d like both! I think the little things are romantic, but there’s also something to be said for going out of your way, and doing something that is “unnatural” (possibly even against what you may be feeling at the moment) in order to show the steadfastness of your love.
Yes, Mic, that is what I think too. I like both. I like seeing the little ways in which my husband shows he loves me (like cleaning up the kitchen after I’ve cooked dinner), but I also would love to come home and find a love note waiting for me, or something of that nature. The normal everyday romantic things are wonderful! But sometimes a little something extra special can do wonders for me.
Damn those discount Wal-Mart DVDs indeed!
Romance is expensive an unneccesary.