Time for Tears

This weekend when we heard about Brad Arms being killed in Iraq we were in the midst of studying for Hebrew and writing papers. We tried to get as much information as we could and to stay in touch with family and friends who shared this sad news. Mark’s done a good job of keeping his blog up to date with news.

I longed to process this and remember Brad, and his mom, and the talks we’ve had, and the ways they have served the school, church and community in Charlottesville. I wanted to recall so much. But I didn’t have the time. I had to focus on Monday morning, 9:30 am when I would have to reproduce numerous verb paradigms and be able to parse on demand. So focus I did.

But at 10:30 am today, after successfully navigating the Masoretic mess that accompanies Biblical Hebrew grammar, during our Monday morning chapel time, I could stop focusing on academics. I could take the time for tears. How good to be sad for the misery that we have in this world. How sweet to join, even at a distance, my dear friends who are grieving. And how sweet for fellow students at WTS who don’t even know Brad (and hardly know me) to just know that expressing their sorrow (some with their own tears) and giving me a hug was all I needed.

After the death of my mother last year (and the death of my father just a couple of years before that) I can appreciate the appropriateness of just crying. We don’t always need to say valiant things or continually quote scripture. Our faith isn’t shaken, we just weep as good friends do when sad things happen. We want an embrace. I think I’m in good company–even Jesus wept for his friend when he died.

4 Responses to “Time for Tears”

  1. Hannah Says:

    we shared with our church on Sunday about Brad and your relationship with the Arms’ family. it was awesome to have a church family who didn’t even personally know you and Dad lift you up in prayer.

  2. the Foolish Sage Says:

    When I came upon you today in the hallway after chapel, with Jerry our campus pastor speaking words of comfort to your tears, I thought, “Whatever do those without the Lord do at times like this?”

  3. Joy Hancock Says:

    Karyn,

    Joy Hancock here–from Charlottesville, VA & Trinity.

    In case you weren’t aware, a copy of the sermon John Hall did the Sunday following Brad’s death is on our home page: http://www.trinitycville.org We hope to get the memorial service posted soon for a limited time period. Wright Doyle did an awesome job giving the meditation. It was a really precious service.

    I was surfing for web blog/comments re: Brad to send to his parents. They’ve got an email address where folks can send memories of Brad…. memoriesofbrad@crozetonline.com.

    Blessings,
    Joy

  4. Karyn Says:

    Thanks, Joy, for finding all those memories of Brad for the Arms family. Thanks for the links too! As time goes by those memories that people share now will be very treasured by the family.

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