Waitresses and waiters are people. You are not better than me because you have more money or a “better” job than I do. I like to be treated with respect, just like you do. Just because someone is waiting tables does not mean they aren’t smart or educated. There are many reasons that educated people may be waiting tables.
Treating me in a such a condescending manner just tells me that you are not confident in who you are, and have to belittle others to make yourself feel better Please don’t make yourself try to feel more important than you really are by treating those who are serving you with disdain.
Remember….these people who you treat like crap are serving your food. And sometimes when they are treated poorly…they might treat you the same way.
P.S. 10% is not a good tip.
My name is Rhonda. I am blessed to live in a beautiful place out in the country with my wonderful husband. In addition to our "real" jobs (I work at a garden center and he is a teacher), we have a small farm where we raise vegetables, eggs and chickens to sell at local Farmer's Markets. We are currently fixing up/remodeling a house into which we will soon be moving...hopefully. In my free time, (what is that?) I enjoy traveling, cooking, crafty projects, reading and watching the sun set on the hills.
No, it’s not.
How about a swift kick in the rear? Is that a good tip? OK, well, if you say that 10% doesn’t work, then OK, I’ll
try to be more respectful next time
There are actually people who think 10% is acceptable?!? 10% is what I leave if the service sucks!! I go 20% most of the time.
I was a hostess for a while. It was the most frustrating, degrading job. I wasn’t EVEN a waitress.
You know, I am in total agreement with your thoughts here. However, I think it’s a two-way street (as it were). There have been so many times lately when servers and hosts(hostesses) have treated me rudely and indifferently when I’ve been in restaurants. The attitude seems to be that they hate their jobs and they take it out on the customers.
So, I tried to post this once already, so if it shows up twice, yeah, sorry.
For my sociology class read an excerpt from a book that I think you would enjoy. It’s called “Dishing it Out: Power and Resistance among Waitresses in a New Jersey Restaurant” by Greta Foff Paules. It addresses very similar issues to the ones you just raised, and I found it fascinating. I always look at waitresses a little differently now.
If you do happen to get ahold of it (no pressure), the excerpt we read was “Getting and Making a Tip” which may be the title of one of the chapters, I don’t know. But anyways, I think you’d enjoy it because it’s pretty applicable to your situation as a waitress.
What do you this is a fair tip Rhonda?
I would tip you a lot, Rhonda. I also would tell you that you are a really smart waitress.