today my friend charity got married. this troubled me, but its a problem that’s been troubling me for quite some time, probably like 3 years. charity and i were really good friends at clemson. i met her on a mission trip, and after being promptly shot down asking her out, we grew to be good friends, in fact, i would say she was my best friend for at least two years. did i mention she is hot? she was also a strong christian, someone i looked up to at times when i was feeling weak. she moved down to charleston my senior year in hopes of getting into med school. she was always known to play an online video game on her computer, which she continued when she moved down to charleston. she got a job at a hospital after getting rejected on her first application to med school. she was going to gain some medical experience or something and then apply again the next year. she ended up meeting this guy from florida via the online game and before you knew it, he moved up to charleston. they started living together, she threw away her dreams of med school, and ended up supporting his part time schooling with two jobs. so add that to the fact that he wasn’t christian and she stopped going to church. so the past three years i would talk to our mutual friend rachel about how when charity got married, we’d both stand up at the ceremony when the minister would say “if anyone has any objections to this union…” last year when i went up to charleston to run in the cooper bridge run with my friend ryan, we met up with charity for dinner. i had invited her and the fiancee but he decided he didn’t want to come. he’s kind of anti social, much the opposite from my friend charity who’s a social butterfly type. ryan also knew charity from clemson, so it was kind of weird for him to sit at dinner and hear what had happened to her since school. the girl we had known who went to play volleyball on the weekends, who was going to be this big fancy doctor ended up supporting some non christian dude who played an online video game and took classes part time with no job.

so today they ended up getting married. i didn’t go mostly because it was all the way in charleston, because of the situation, and because i didn’t get an invitation. its been tough for me this week knowing its coming up because i keep going over in my head “what could i have done to prevent this from happening?” i went out with my friend judith last night, and she told me how she was in a similar situation, only she was the girl everyone was concerned about. she told me she wasn’t comfortable at church because she felt everyone judging her. she wanted to make an exception for the guy, even though she knew the whole “being unequally yolked is bad” applied to her too. at least the guy she was dating had a job. she gave me some good advice as to how to deal with the situation…pray for my friend.

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